Swinger Etiquette

Swinging, like anything, has rules. These rules of etiquette allows you to have a more enjoyable and safe experience while participating in any swinger parties or events.  Taking some time to learn about swinger etiquette will ease some of the worries about what to expect when going to a party for the first time.

Different Swinger Party, Different Etiquette

Different hosts or parties may have somewhat different rules so it never hurts to give them a call before hand to acquaint yourself with what is expected at that particular party.

Swinger Party Timeliness

When you are attending a swinger party it is important to be on time.  At swinger parties or events, "fashionably late" is not cool.

Swinger Party Invitations

If you are invited to a party or event, it is always polite to let the host know if your can attend or not.  There is quite a bit of preparation that goes into a swinger party and it is nice for the host to know how many attendees there will be.  If you are going to attend it is a good idea to ask the host if there is anything you could bring. ie. food or snacks

Arriving at the Swinger Party

When you attend a swinger party, arrive and leave with your partner.  It is considered bad etiquette for either partner to arrive or leave alone thus leaving a single at the party.

Swinger Party Dress

Most swinger parties require casual but attractive clothing.  If the party is an on-premise party it may be a good idea to take along some comfortable and sexy type clothing, such as robes and lingerie.  Keep your valuables you take with you to a minimum as a problem will only cause embarrassment to the host and others.  

Swinger Party Cleanliness

Grooming and cleanliness are essential when attending a swinger party.  Arriving showered and shaved will make yours and other's party experience very enjoyable.  Take along any toiletries you may need including towels.  Remember to also bring any safe sex supplies that your require for a safe and fun evening.

Decisions to Make Before Attending a Swinger Party

Before attending a swinger party or event you should decide with your partner as to how you want to participate in the activities.  Do you want to participate together or alone.  If you decide you want to participate together it is important not to abandon each other.

Swinger Party "Tickets"

No, this is not what you need to get in.  "Tickets" are someone who attends a swinger party with another, just for the sake of getting that person into the party and has no intention of swinging.  "Tickets" are frowned upon big time and will get you banned from that party and maybe even others as the word spreads.

Swinger Party Propositions

The right to say "no" is a steadfast rule at any swinger party or event.  If you are not interested in swinging with that particular person or couple, a simple "no thank you" is all that is needed with no explanation needed.  Explanations can only lead to problems and hurt feelings.

Alcohol or Drugs at a Swinger Party

While drugs are not a common problem at swinger parties, they are usually prohibited as they can cause all kinds of problems, legally and socially.  Many swinger parties are BYOB.  Social drinking is deemed okay, overindulgence is not.  If you need lots of booze to participate, these parties are not for you.

Swinger Parties and Safe Sex

While STD's have never been a big problem among swingers, safe sex is becoming more and more an "in thing" in the swinger community.  The use of condoms are becoming quite common and anybody who is offended by the use of condoms are considered selfish and irresponsible.  

Group Sex at a Swinger Party

A room is quite often set up just for group sex in particular.  If you are looking for privacy this is definitely not the room for you.  The right to refuse still applies in this room just the same.

Hosting a Swinger Party

If you are hosting a party it is good etiquette to anticipate you guest's needs, as in having plenty of towels and wash cloths available and clean sheets on the beds.  When they arrive, give them a tour of your house, showing them the bathrooms, bedrooms and explain what bedrooms are to be used for what.  ie. group sex room

Use of Sex Toys at a Swinger Party

Use of sex toys are for the most part welcomed at a swinger party.  Make sure your sex toys are always clean before and after and make sure you use condoms on them as well.  Oh, and make sure you buy them at Passion for Pleasure.  ;-)