Masturbation

Masturbation by both females and males has been frowned upon by society all throughout history.  It was believed that masturbation endangered human survival, mostly due to the belief that men would run out of semen and masturbation was a waste of semen.  Even today many parts of society and religions warn about the dangers of masturbation.  All you have to do is punch in "masturbation" into any search engine and you will see thousands of websites warning about the evils of masturbation. 

The Kinsey Report on Masturbation

When the controversial Kinsey Report was released back in 1948 brought to light many  sexual statistics that many people found hard to believe.  Some of the general points that this report brought out was that 92% of men and 62% of women have masturbated.  Interesting statistics, but we believe it should have gone like this.  "92% of men have masturbated while 8% have been known to lie from time to time."  Just the same masturbation is, for the most part, a taboo and is always kept very much hidden.

Female Masturbation

It seems to us that female masturbation has been even more of a taboo then male masturbation especially when you look at the Kinsey report that says only 62% ob women reported masturbating while men were at 92%.  This may come from the belief that a lady is supposed to be prim and proper, doesn't get horny or have urges and would never resort to masturbation.  This may be why many women hide masturbation from their partners and masturbation is never talked about between partners. 

Male Masturbation

Beating off, wanking and choking your chicken, all terms used to describe what just about every man, all their life, does but very rarely admits to.  Male masturbation, for the most part, is a hidden activity and done as quick as possible.  The "hurry up and get it done" most likely comes from the adolescent years when masturbation was first being discovered and the fear of getting caught by their parents or friends.  We believe this "masturbation quickie thing" affects men in later life, making them unable to hold out as long as they would like.  The cure for this just may be through masturbation, by practicing holding back, such as stopping just before ejaculation, cooling off a bit and then going at it again. 

Is Masturbation Harmful?

Any way you look at it, masturbation is by not means harmful, unless you are really getting crazy with it.  Men will never run out of semen although the amount they ejaculate may be less if they go at it hard.  Men may incur a type of "rug burn" if they masturbate too much and women may find their clitoris somewhat sensitive after orgasm. 

How Do I Approach My Partner about Masturbation?

When you are bringing up the subject of masturbation with your partner, it is best to start off with the explanation that masturbation will enhance your sexual relationship and is no way meant to be a replacement for "making love".  Reassure your partner that he or she is not inadequate by any means.  If you are brave enough at first, you may want to have your partner watch while you get down to business.  You and your partner may be surprised what a turn on this can be and you may want to make masturbation a regular part of your sex play.

Couples and Masturbation

Couples may find, that by keeping their minds open and discussing masturbation, it can actually add an exciting element to their sex life.  Mutual masturbation can become an erotic and regular part of a couple's sexual activities.  May people find the site of their partner masturbating very erotic and may actually show your partner some of the techniques you use to orgasm.  Mutual masturbation also tends to break down barriers between you and your partner that actually allow you to become closer.